Background : His name is Josh. He moved to the Atlanta area (he goes to my school, just trying to keep location vague) from Colorado at the beginning of this semester. He rides my bus we immediately became great friends. We see each other everyday. He is everything I want in a guy, cute, funny, smart, good hair, likes the same music as I do, and willing to have alone time with me. I fell in love with him. I'm not sure about his sexuality (probably straight). He is my personal painkiller, I can have an awful day, see him and everything will be alright. Today he told me that he's moving back to Colorado at the end of the semester and not coming back because he's homesick. I don't know what to do. I wrote him a letter to give to him before he leaves .

Josh,

Today you told me that are moving back to Colorado at that end of the semester and not coming back. I felt my stomach drop and I couldn’t hear anything but my heartbeat. You have no idea how much it kills me to know that the boy that I entrusted my heart to is going to destroy it in May. I don’t know if I’ll be able to live without you. I know I still have most of the semester to be with you, but the fact that you’re leaving this place, where I met you, the best thing that has ever happened to me, is eating away at my heart. I am about to tell you something I will probably not have the guts to say to you before you read this. I love you. You may forget me but I will never forget you.

I love you,

Bruce


I need advice

Don't give it to him.

I've written this kind of letter before, and thankfully never sent them. It's therapeutic, and helps clarify your thoughts, but they tend to be (and in this case, is) pretty melodramatic. If you want him to know, then tell him face to face; the natural embarrassment will hold you back from going over the top. If you can't tell him face to face, then it doesn't need to be said. If he's charitable, he might read this as kind of cute, but more likely it will just come off as obsessive and creepy (which is never attractive).

good luck convincing him to stay, I hope it works out for you.

Actually, come to think of it, this is what you should tell him:



Much better, honest and realistic than this:

Yeah. Don't compound the heartache. Straight boys are poison to us, haven't you heard?

Give it to him. Force him to read it in front of you. Take a picture of his face when he's done. Post it in this thread.

Oprah!!!!

He's going to move away and forget all about the creepy kid he hung out with that turned out to be homosexual. Get over it.

Just for the record, he found out that I was gay the day we met.

Aww Sorry to hear. I know how good a single person can make you feel.

I wish you luck that Josh may tell you the same thing

I don't like the letter, but that's just me. Just tell him to his face that you have feelings for him.

Bottom line is, you can't make him stay

hope you're okay, though.

I must agree with the others that perhaps giving this letter is not the best idea. In fact, it might seem selfish and create a greater conflict:

One should actively respect his decision to leave. You posed a great argument as to why he should stay, but it's only centered on your needs. You didn't mention his well-being, just your interests. The two possibilities that I can think of that would happen are:

Either he gets angry at you for only thinking about yourself, or,
He gets persuaded to stay but will resent you

Either way, your relationship won't be the same. And, it does sound overdramatic. This should only be said in person, or not at all.

this.

The obvious answer is to lock him in your basement and force him to eat grasshoppers.

Agh, this is so sad I had a very similar situation to this, and my boy actually moved to Colorado too. My heart goes out to you.

As to the letter, I wouldn't be opposed to giving him something to remember you by, but I wouldn't make it quite so melodramatic, even if that's how you're feeling right now (and trust me, I know how you're feeling).

But the way I see it you have two options:

1. Go visit him a lot. Stay with him over the summer, go for weekends, etc. If you're really as close as you say you are, that shouldn't be much of a problem. But then again if you continue to see him, the pain will just continue.

2. Spend as much time with him as you can while he's still here, then after he leaves, just power through it. It's gonna hurt, and it's gonna hurt bad, but once you get through it you'll be stronger. I know that I am.

I defiantly wouldn't give him that letter. It can come across as creepy.

I think you should give him the letter. But with less of the "you are the boy i entrusted my heart" stuff, the "i love you" bit covers that without scaring him off/creeping him out. Personally I don't think it will make a difference to him leaving but at least he will know how you feel.

Absolutely seconding this. Telling him things like what you told us will let him know how you feel without giving him the feeling that you're trying to guilt trip him into staying or else there will be a Romeo and Juliet style split. Tell him that you know he feels he needs to go and that you don't want to keep him somewhere he isn't happy. If you truly love him, you'll want him to be where he is happy. But I think it takes a lot of courage to be able to tell him how you feel before he goes. It could turn out completely weird, and if it does, it'll suck, but your situation already sucks because he's leaving, so I don't see how you lose much more in the long run by being honest with him.

I just wanted to say thank you to all of you who replied to me, I didn't expect to get this much support, maybe one or two replies at best. It's reassuring to know that I have people that I can talk to about things like this, as there is a serious lack of gay people at my school/ I don't know that many gay people at my school. I have decided to go with Aerach and Xade's advice. Either a day or two days before he leaves I'm going to talk to him about this whole situation. Also, I've decided to give him a painting as a going-home present. He loves birds and boats, so I'm going to paint a row boat floating along the surface of the lake and a bird flying high above it. The piece will be title "I know you're happy when you're home". I really do love him, I know not being able to see him that much, possibly at all, sucks for me but I want to happy rather than homesick, so when I talk to him I'm not going to try and persuade him to stay but rather, tell him that he's always going to have a home here. Once again, thanks again for all the support. I'll keep y'all updated.

Goodluck

Do keep us updated . I hope it goes well for you.