I can't decide if I should go after this guy or not.

He's sooooo sweet and kind. I am freaking in love with his personality. He always sits by me at lunch when no one else does, and makes good conversation.

The only thing is, and I don't mean this in a horribly shallow way, he's ugly as sin. I don't find him physically attractive at all. He has a unibrow, crooked teeth, and lots of acne. I don't find him physically attractive in the least.

I know I sound shallow, but I'm not sure what to do.

well ofc not.

everyone is quote unquote nice, really... except hitler or something

If you find him ugly as sin, it won't work out. Your affection for him clearly stops at the friendship level.

Probably not. Keep him as a friend.

Yeeeah. If you aren't physically attracted to him, a relationship is going to go nowhere. It sucks to say, but I think you should keep him as a friend. That said, maybe you could help him out a little bit with his appearance? Don't be a dick about it, though. Nobody needs a condescending friend.

keep him as a friend... no physical attraction always a lose lose

definate friend, but i agree with the other poster that said to help him out. Maybe he just lacks confidence. No one can help the way they look, but physical attraction is a large part of relationaships.

You should go with it, if you are prepared to live with the repercussions. Being stuck in a relationship with this guy would probably be one of those.

I'd say go for it, if he's the only one who will sit with you during lunch chances are you're just as ugly as he is.

rofl

For a relationship to work I think you need to find both someone's looks and personality attractive. If you really don't find him physically attractive, then I think you should stay friends.

Oh dude, thats harsh, be nice.

Do you even know if he's gay?

Personally i think we have some shallow kiddies here. Looks are good but personalty trumps looks in my book. If you're asking for help then a part of you must want to otherwise you wouldn't even considered posting this.

With my logic it would be illogical to not go after it( of course if hes straight then don't bother.)

You even said you're in love with his personality, that is a stronger indicator that this could work out.

Although I have no experience in the dating world whatsoever I don't see how you can possibly go out with someone who you aren't attracted to. It just won't work in the long term.

You don't have to go out with someone just because you like them, that's what friends are for

Stare at the sun a couple hours. He wont seem so ugly after that.

And this is why I don't particularly like Mandril . I'm sure he gives a fuck.



And I think you're being unrealistic. Loving his personality is great, but he has to look at the guy's face, too. You can't just have one or the other. If you love looks without loving personality, it'll fail just as hard as if you love personality without loving looks. On a basic level, there has to be some sexual attraction, and if OP can't get it up while looking at this guy's face because he's turned off, what's the point of pursuing a relationship? It would only end hurtfully.