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OP:
"So I haven't been on this forum much for the entire semester mostly due to being busy finishing my course.. but also certain social circumstances which bring all kinds of warm fuzzies

This is going to be long, so I apologise, if you don't want to read it there's a tl;dr at the bottom for your convenience. I feel like I have a duty to share this long winded story with my fellow forumers as this place has helped me for the past year (as of November 19) in all kinds of petty situations I've found myself in.


The first half of this year for me was what I consider the lowest point in my life. Mostly due to letting myself feel lonely and "pine" for a boyfriend. Load of bullshit that lead me to that Grindr app which brought nothing but social awkwardness and false hope.

My first overseas trip (to Europe) in the middle of the year brought a new start to a new semester. I deleted the Grindr app when I got home and cut off all contact will all of my grindr "friends". I had nothing in common with any of them so friendships weren't even possible without being forced.

I decided that I was way happier just living in blissful hope that I'll eventually meet someone through friends of friends or something.
Who'd have known that that wait would only be three weeks


I caught up with a friend I hadn't seen in six months in late August. She'd gotten a new boyfriend during that time, and made friends with a friend of her boyfriends. She found out this friend is gay, and then basically told him about me, to which she showed him fb pics of me and he thought I was cute apparently, or something like that.
She told me about this dude, to which I later fb stalked him (cause I'm not creepy like that), but to my demise his profile was private, but then I found pics of him on my friends' boyfriends' profile... I felt all kinds of stalkerishness but oh well, it was nice to know that this person my friend wanted me to meet was amazingly cute and had things in common with me.

I went mildly insane waiting 5 weeks to finally get to meet this guy who I just knew would be a great new friend. We finally did at a gig he played in (he plays drums) that my friend invited me to with her bf.
Basically, we hit it off right from the start he came to chat with me and others during his breaks.

An example of one of the first things that took place:
Him: "So.. what music do you like?"
Me: "well um where do I start, U2!"
Him: "HIGH FIVE! Do you like Coldplay?"
Me: "Why yes!"
Him "DOUBLE HIGH FIVE!!"

Since then we've met up several times mostly with other friends, but a couple times just alone together to pre-order and then buy Coldplays new album . To which there's always been something to talk about and been no awkward silences you sometimes get with new friends. We just get along really well

Not to mention that I also hit it off really well with my friends bf as he's almost just as awesome. Apparently he has a man-crush on me

So it's now come to a point in time where I've been starting to think about asking him out, I feel like I know him well enough now to know that even if he says no, we'll still be great friends.

He's as awkward and unaware as I am when it comes to these things, so neither of us have really given off any obvious signals that we like each other, but then we may both be too shy? I may be overanalysing it and he's not interested at all, but who knows.

In the end, I plan on asking him out in a couple weeks time at our friends (my friends bf I mentioned several times already's birthday).



tl;dr I met an amazingly awesome and cute guy through a friend who I've become great friends with and now plan on soon asking out. I'm not sure if he'll say yes, but the odds are looking good "

do gays even high five?

Other than that tho, gratz. We are all jealous of you.

That's adorable.. Congratulations!

I wish you two boys the best of luck .

^^ Thanks I can only wish others had my luck :/ but at the same time he might say no but he's still a great friend.



Yes, yes they do

That's so great!!! Please keep us informed!

hahahaha duuuude your story is so similar to mine! i was in a shit head space at the end of yr 12 then i went to europe for 9 months which changed me (for the better of course ) and made me see everything clearer. so i came back to aus just being like meh ill meet someone soon. i have yet to meet anyone but ive only really been back 2 weeks so fingers crossed i end up as lucky as you

James, that is awesome! You lucky lucky man, you better keep us posted with how it goes!

@Johnny, Benji's coming to Sydney in December. If you two don't meet so help me god...

haha shhhh

^^^^^ Lolololol! And I really feel quite bad that my luck just keeps coming in buckets >.< but oh well, I'll just enjoy the ride while it lasts.


JC - I shall

Johnny - Well I was only in Europe (mostly the Czech Republic) for two weeks, but it still greatly helped put my mind back in shape. I'm glad that you were able to pick yourself up again too . Don't worry, you will find someone, be it now or ages, they're there just waiting to be met.


So I told my female friend that I plan on asking this guy out, she said to maybe not plan it, but just wait till it feels right, in a spur-of-the-moment kind of way. I guess I've never asked someone out before so I wouldn't know how it works. So I might wait longer, but who knows.

Also something more:
As I finish my course this week, on Thursday night my class is having a Graduation Exhibition opening night (Did a photography course for two years, so we're showcasing our work in a gallery for a week). After this opening night, my class plan on going out to get rather intoxicated, to which I invited several of my own friends to join us as well (most of the ones mentioned in my original post plus a few more who know each other).
I told my extra-special-awesome-friend about my plans to get drunk and stay overnight at a uni friends house. He said that he'd love to also get drunk and invited himself along to sleep over with me at whatever Uni friends house I end up in
We shall see what happens, if anything, if not then oh well

Aww congrats wish u guys the best of luck and I'm glad you're much happier now

I dont really think you need to make it some big event. Just ask if he wants to get dinner or whatever date activity sounds good. Building it up in your mind will just make you more nervous.

Thanks BJ, I couldn't be more glad that I got over my petty feelings of last semester >.< it was really pathetic.


Yeah, that's pretty much what I was thinking. Ask him out to see if he'd be interested, if not then no one's going to die. So what my friend said kind of confused me. In my mind it feels like the time could be soon, cause he may not know that I'm interested in him, as I've really made no obvious sign of it cause I'm not one to "make moves" on people. And neither is he it seems

Thanks for the advice

one of my best mates asked this chick out in the CUTEST FRIKKEN WAY POSSIBLE
dunno if you want to use this but feel free
they were both on her computer looking up songs and random stuff, then he said: "have you heard of this band before?" as he typed into the search bar "would you like to go out with me"
if i seriously ever find myself sitting with someone i wanna ask out and im in front of a comp ill do that haha

Hahaha! That's awesome! Thanks for the suggestion I think I might make a new thread on this, for a bit of fun and maybe more advice. I might have to pass on that one though, it's good, but I'd rather do it in person.

AWESOME NEWS!

Update: So I asked said guy out just last night in a very awkward derpy spur-of-the-momen-when-we-were-together-alone for a short while kind of way.

I mumbled something like "Hey, I've been meaning to ask you something... umm.. eerrr.. would you like to go out with me?"

At the time he said it was quite a surprise and we'll chat later in the night about it.

So we chatted for a good while later on and he said that he's not ready for a relationship yet. He still wants to come out to a certain amount of people as well as needing to speak to his parents again about his gay-ness, just to make sure they're aware that he's never going to have a gf and that they'd be fine with him being with a guy.

But then he said (something close to his wording) that he thinks something could be possible between us in due time

So basically he's put the offer on hold. I really don't mind, I understand his predicament. I basically asked him out to see where we both stood in terms of what we thought of each other, to make things a little clearer, so I got that, and it's nice to have it out in the open that we both like each other (well, his friends have been bugging him about me ever since we met haha, same as what my friends have been doing to me).


tl;dr: I asked the guy out, he wants to come out to more people and talk to his parents again before starting anything, but is interested

That is awesome man. I am glad that it turned out for the good.

Heh, I wasn't aware MysteriousWays / Chris lived in Australia.

You should have said another band, and been like "TRIPLE HIGH FIVE"

That said, I am very very jelly of you.