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Brother now thinks im gay

Unread postby jonasrrr » 2nd September, 2017, 7:53 am

When im horny, I automatically watch gayporn, I get horny from all the gay stuff. but when im done I regret watching all that stuff
So yesterday I was horny again and talked to some random gay person on facebook, told him I was bi and if he had some pics..
I think he contacted my brother on facebook because a couple hours later my brother came in the room and looked me with his typical face he always makes when he wanted to say something cringy lol. So he said 'Hover over my name on facebook' he was laughing. I said 'I dont see anything' then he said 'Go see who I recently became friends with'

I'm sure he found out. but found out what? im gay? I'm straight.. So what do I say when he confronts me about it? or should I confront him?
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Re: Brother now thinks im gay

Unread postby KrisCross » 2nd September, 2017, 8:27 am

First things first, the odds that you are 100% straight are rather small if gay porn is what turns you on. Feeling regret after watching porn is a common thing for teens, but doesn't necessarily say much about your sexuality.

It seems to me that he doesn't really care that much though, otherwise he might have said something more than just acknowledge that he knows. Just wait and see how it goes, if he confronts you and you don't want him to know, just say it was nothing.
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Re: Brother now thinks im gay

Unread postby Dua Lipa » 2nd September, 2017, 8:29 am

First of all, you sound awfully gay or atleast bi.. getting turned on by homosexual sex is not really a straight thing to do so perhaps you need to have a think about your sexuality xD. You feel guilty afterwards because society conditions you to think anything gay is bad, I think we've all had this feeling of guilt before. As for your brother, well, if he did find out what you've been doing with this guy then his reaction is pretty good? I mean it's not negative. I don't know what you should say to your brother if he even confronts you that's entirely up to you :P
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Re: Brother now thinks im gay

Unread postby jonasrrr » 2nd September, 2017, 8:42 am

Im not attracted to men. Im not gay or bi
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Re: Brother now thinks im gay

Unread postby Zephyrus » 2nd September, 2017, 9:14 am

jonasrrr wrote:When im horny, I automatically watch gayporn, I get horny from all the gay stuff.

jonasrrr wrote:Im not attracted to men. Im not gay or bi

Can you see how you are contradicting yourself here, darling?

Regardless, it seems like you should just see what happens with your brother. Confronting him shows that it bothers you, and he'll be more inclined to use it against you - whether it is what you expect or something else. Hope everything works out fine for you though. :keke:
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Re: Brother now thinks im gay

Unread postby Abdeltyf » 2nd September, 2017, 10:00 am

Whatever this gay person on fb told your brother (which is that you're gay or sth completely irrelevant); I don't think there's anything to worry about. You just said you aren't gay. Prove it to him then. That is if you actually can...
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Re: Brother now thinks im gay

Unread postby Kaspar » 2nd September, 2017, 11:09 am

Well, you shouldn't really feel bad about yourself if it turns out you are gay. We are telling you that, because we kinda have some experience with it and for example personally, I enjoyed gay porn and then felt guilty about it, a few years ago :P

As for the what to do with your brother - he didn't seem shocked or mad or angry, so I guess that confronting him about it might, as Tyler said, make it look like what he found is true and you are stressed about him finding out.
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Re: Brother now thinks im gay

Unread postby Dolly » 2nd September, 2017, 11:09 am

Well, uh. Uh. Ok.
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Re: Brother now thinks im gay

Unread postby jonasrrr » 2nd September, 2017, 1:43 pm

I wouldn't mind being gay. but the thing is.. I'm not.
whenever I'm outside, I don't look at guys, only girls. I couldn't imagine myself with another man when im not horny.
I just feel fucked up right now that he thinks im gay while I acted straight alll my lifeeeeeeeee....................
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Re: Brother now thinks im gay

Unread postby Tim. » 2nd September, 2017, 1:56 pm

I think you have to look at this more objectively. You look up gay porn, and asked a guy for pics, so clearly you have some sort of sexual attraction to guys. If you also find girls attractive then that's ok, perhaps you are Bi with a preference for girls?
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Re: Brother now thinks im gay

Unread postby jonasrrr » 2nd September, 2017, 2:08 pm

Yes, but only when horny, only when masturbating lol
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Re: Brother now thinks im gay

Unread postby Kaspar » 2nd September, 2017, 3:56 pm

Actually with all the term and labels existing - there is something you can call yourself based on what you tell us.
If you only have romantic feelings for girls, then you are heteroromantic and having purely sexual interest in both girls and guys, but mainly girls, would be heteroflexible. You are heteroromatic heteroflexible.

Terms like this may be very precise, but good luck actually explaining it to people :P
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Re: Brother now thinks im gay

Unread postby Wayde » 3rd September, 2017, 2:04 am

I don't want to tell say that you are wrong about your own feelings, but I think you are in denial. I went through the exact same thing when I started to realize that I was gay. At first, I was convinced that I was only sexually attracted to guys. I told myself that there was absolutely no way that I could like guys romantically... Until I realized that I did (and do). Looking back, I realize that I was simply in denial. I think that telling myself that I couldn't be romantically into guys was easier to process at first. Thinking this way made me feel as though I was still straight since I had always been told that being gay was wrong. Not liking guys romantically made me believe that I wasn't really gay... But I am. It just took time to fully process this truth. I am sure I am not the only member on here who went through the same thing early on.
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