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Gay socialising/meeting people?

Unread postby Fivepoint » 8th June, 2017, 11:48 pm

I'm still quite new here, but around the same time I signed up here I signed up on some general gay chat websites. There's someone I'm kinda interested in and they recently shared their WhatsApp number, but there's a few issues (I'm literally brand new to everything about this, I'm still struggling with whether or not I'm gay at all even though I'm pretty sure I am - or at least bi with a very gay weighting. I think it's more to do with actually saying it rather than just thinking "oh, I have a preference for guys". I know I'm a bit old for this!).

1: Is it safe? I don't know them, I don't know if they can track or recognise my number, I've never even used WhatsApp before in my life.

2: What if I end up not interested in them after all, I don't want to use them.

3: The whole accepting I'm probably gay thing with a reasonably right-wing family I'd never be able to come out to and feel comfortable with again.

If anyone can help with any aspect of this I'd be very grateful!

(Also, if this belongs on the older site for any reason I'm so sorry! I was directed here by someone from there and welcomed here ok, but I realise most people here are probably younger than me at <19. Plus, I'm sorry if this is more than one question!)

Thank you :)
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Re: Gay socialising/meeting people?

Unread postby Unseasoned Chicken » 9th June, 2017, 12:24 am

Hey there! You've definitely come to the right place that site is (unfortunately) dead and I'm sure you'd be waiting a while for an answer. Firstly I'm not sure how exactly Whatsapp works but from my understanding it links your personal phone number to the app. If you want full anonymity then i recommend using Kik.

There's nothing wrong if you end up not interested in him, this is normal no one is expected to fall in love or even want to start a relationship with every guy they talk to, that's just how life works. However if you do find you're not interested early on I recommend you tell him or hint at it straight away, the worst thing you could do is lead him on.

Lastly, with accepting you're gay (or whatever sexuality you are) its something that takes time and will only happen when you're ready. You don't need to throw a label on yourself right away, only when you are certain about your sexuality. A great way to begin accepting yourself is to talk to other gays I know this helped me so you're on the right track xD
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Re: Gay socialising/meeting people?

Unread postby Pity » 9th June, 2017, 1:04 am

What Etahn said, but make sure you talk to him some more online and make sure he’s real. You only joined recently, so I would never meet up with someone I just met.
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Re: Gay socialising/meeting people?

Unread postby Fivepoint » 9th June, 2017, 4:56 pm

Yeah I do think it's a bit dodgy. I didn't ask for their number, and I've only spoken to them for about a week or so. I think I feel like I'm being boring if I don't go along with it, but like you said I really don't know them at all!

I think I'm having my mid-life crisis early or something.
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Re: Gay socialising/meeting people?

Unread postby bad syntax » 13th June, 2017, 1:28 am

Everyone likes bubble tea. Is bubble tea with an absolute stranger weird, even if you met them online first? I don't know about the dangers of online dating, but I'd wager that bubble tea is a great way to see if you want to interact with someone.
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Re: Gay socialising/meeting people?

Unread postby Auralnauts » 16th June, 2017, 7:37 am

If you're attracted to him and he shows no instant red flags then fuck it try it out but explain to him if at any point you feel uncomfortable that it has to stop.

I felt uncomfortable the first time I got with a guy but it was because I had those inner thoughts asking me what others would think. Eventually I stopped giving a fuck and enjoyed the moment.
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Re: Gay socialising/meeting people?

Unread postby rkach » 18th July, 2017, 6:12 am

Hi! I'm new to all this too. I came out in June of 2016. In the past year, I have noticed that, in many instances, most people are just looking for dick pics in those chat rooms etc. Its not really worth it. I doubt you will find your dream guy in there bc most people are just going to be looking for someone they can be horny with for that night only. I would recommend meeting other gay people at an LGBT community center. It's much safer and friendlier. You can get information about LGBT community centers from your school counselors and local librarians. If you are worried about your parents finding out you were at an LGBT Community Center, maybe go with a ally or friend that will drive? Hope this helps
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Re: Gay socialising/meeting people?

Unread postby Danielhk » 22nd July, 2017, 11:49 pm

I am now 22. When I was 14 something I thought one day someone I dream of would come and say hey, I like you. But years gone by, Disneyland just turns out to be nothing except fantasies.

If you have a crush on or a feeling of that guy, why not text him and see how things turn out?

Just buy a SIM card if you want to hide out the identity.

Last thing - you are definitely not having a mid life crisis. Age means nothing when you grow up and soon you will realise how young you were when you said you are old and experienced to do something on your own behalf.

Get well and cheer up!
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