It's late. I'm tired. I'm in my feelings listening to Drake, excuse me if this seems nonsensical or has typos.

Earlier in May I met this guy, well, more like he met me. I went in for a job interview at Taco Bell and there was this guy. He saw me and was like, "You look nervous, have a drink." and handed me a cup. And from then on it was good. So I started to form this crush on him after very juvenile contact and hoping that he liked me, even though I thought it would be useless. So I asked my friend about the guy (Who we'll now call Jake) and he goes, "Yeah, Jake's as bisexual as they come." So I got excited so it was all cool. And it seemed like when I found that out, he got super friendly. He'd always be like, "Hey come hang out with me after work," or "Where do you live, we should hang out." I went to Pittsburgh shortly after.

While I was in Pittsburgh, I got drunk by myself and ended up telling him about my abusive ex-step brother and that I liked him, he said "It's cool, I'm comfortable with myself...but I like bitches just so you know." So I thought it was the end of that. But I got back from Pittsburgh and hadn't talked to him in a few days and he said, "Damn, J-Roc, you don't hit me up no more." So with that it was all brought back up. Now I have a habit of saying if and that brought up this conversation.

Jake: Yeah, I wanna be a photographer, my girls a model...I don't know how it's gonna go our relationship is rocky right now.
Me: Oh...I'm gonna try to be an actor if I get famous.
Jake: Movies or like, plays and shit
Me: If I got to NYU probably plays, but if I got to VCU
Jake: When
Me: Huh?
Jake WHEN, you go to NYU...you'll do whatever you put your mind to, you've got a good head on your shoulders.

And that really started the shit storm we've got into. He ended up breaking up with his girl and always was there to give me advice and cheer me up when my step mom pissed me off and was still trying to chill, specifically the time that caught me was when he was like, "J-Roc, for real, just chill with me one time, you won't regret it" And I'm like, I totally want to. There was a big rumor last year about him being gay and a lot of my older male coworkers talk about how he's not into girls, as well as a few of the female coworkers. And this shouldn't be a problem cause it seems perfect. But there are a few problems.

One, he's got two different personalities: Him when he's high and him when he's sober. Sober him cares, but doesn't ever say what's on his mind. High him whispers, "You're into freaky shit when you drunk, aren't you." into my ear. And it's nerve-wracking because one second I'm dealing with him sober, he leaves for 5 minutes and comes back blazed. Which brings us to now.

His brother committed suicide recently (last 15 days recently) and he's been...a wreck. He told me he smokes to get away from things. But he's not the same when he smokes. And I texted him a really emotional text about how I'm here for him and how he shouldn't get high because he's not the same and if he does something stupid and gets hurt, I'll feel bad. He didn't respond. But I saw him a few days later after the wake, he called me J-Roc, but idk how good that's worth. I went out camping for some Jordans and texted him, he texted back, and asked who it was and when I said it was me, I didn't get a response. Thing is the text didn't look like he texted it...but hell, I could be wrong.

I don't know if he'll be back at work this week. But I leave Wednesday for L.A. for a few weeks. And I feel like when I get back it'll just be awkward and I feel like if I text while I'm there it'll be mad awkward. And I feel like everything now will be awkward. And if he feels nothing, I'll just seem like some clingy gay kid and I'm like what the fuck man.

I mean, I know there's a serious depression or feeling of loss when you lose someone close to you. I lost my mom for god's sake. But a yeah, I'm fine or even a no, I feel like shit would be fine, but like...I don't know. UGH! I feel stupid. I just don't know what to do.

This probably makes NO SENSE.

TL;DR Version: Met this guy, but he's very indecisive and it seems like he's two different people because he gets high so often. His brother died recently and I knew that'd make him smoke more, so I sent an emotional text about how I didn't want him to fuck up and get hurt. I saw him after that and he was fine. Now I feel a thick distance between us.

Well I can't really offer and valid advice, seeing as I've never had to deal with anything quite like this, I can tell you what you already know. He's just getting high to escape from all that bad thoughts clouding up his mind.

What is there that you can do about this? Hell if I know. He'll be a little distant right now, that's to be expected.

Just don't let it drag on. Sooner or later he's going to have to get back to this reality and move forward.

It sounds like some real movie drama you've got going on and was a good read. Thanks I guess.

Well, his brother just died, so you should leave the guy alone for a while. He probably needs time, if anything is ever gonna happen, he'll make the first move.

I've lost many loved ones in my life, it's never easy - but what I've learnt is that we ALL have our own way with grieving.. All I can say is that it'll take time, just be a friend and support him like; "Hey if you EVER wanna talk about anything I'm here for you, I know how it feels to lose someone - I'm here for ya buddy." If he doesn't respond that's completely understandable, he might just want to be alone for a while, but he'll know that he has someone to talk to and when he's ready he'll respond.

Don't tell him to quit weed, that seems imposing to the smoker and is just not a cool thing to do (when I smoked often I got irritated at friends who didn't even know what weed really was and kept telling me to quit or that I'd get addicted or that something would happen to me).

If you like him, like him the way he is, with all his habits.

Also, I don't think it's that awkward to text him while in L.A. You can just send something like "Hey, bored in L.A. What are you up to?" but I guess you should let him text you first? Idk.

Let him heal from his brother's death, give him the space he wants. He'll talk to you when he's feeling more stable

Most annoying situation ever. Been there too. -.-

ANYWAYS, on topic - give him time, in the meanwhile enjoy LA.

Let him know that you're there for him if he ever wants to talk about his brother, but don't suffocate him. Give him some space, and he'll sort out his emotions eventually.
Also, if you don't like him when he's high, you can't expect him to quit just because it bothers you. And you always have to consider the fact that he MIGHT NOT be interested in you the same way you are with him. Don't put all your eggs in one basket, and be devastated when he ends up not liking you in such a way. Good luck.

Okay, so ironically enough a lot of my questions and problems have been solved but new ones came up. So I went to work the following day. He was there. We talked and everything was fine and he goes, "I got your text, thanks for looking out for me, I didnt respond cause everyone was calling crying and shit and I wasnt bout cry anymore." I dont think I talked about the text but it was somethung along the lines of you "I'm here for you, call ne if you need to, dont do anything stupid because if you get hurt or worse i'm gonna miss you" So him acknowledging it made me feel better.

But its the next day that matters. He took my day shift so I could work nights. So I walked in with my step brother and dad, he sees them both. So we go back to get the food and he starts smiling and im like what? He's like how old is he and i said 17. He still had something to say but he wouldn't tell me. Eventually I'm like what is it. And he just goes "Your brothers cute"

And I go "O.o"

And he's like really cute it takes a lot for me to say a guy is cute, but he is...yall ever tried anything."
And then this whole 'My Step Brothers Gay, My Step Brothers Straight' conversation begins. And then he was like you ever tried any of his friends and i said yes and he was like were you successful and I was like sometimes and he just starts laughin. Then I was like

Me: I have a question.
Jake: Yeah?
Me:I You think I'm cute
Jake: Yeah, you cute
Me: Another question
Jake: Okay
Me: What would you do if I kissed you right now
Jake: *smiling* I don't know

Unfortunately I had to really work. And even more unfortunate he and his ex got back together I think. He started explainin why he's still with her but didnt finish.
This all happpened the day before I left for LA and that was 4like dahs ago...I have 11to days left. So I'm trying to figure out what tf my next moves are. Suggestions? Comments? Questions?
TL;DR Version
Jake said he liked me the day before I leave on a 15 day trip, now I'm trying to form a game olan for my return

(Sorry if this is typed like shit, im on my phone)

A genuine good drama thread and none of you faggots have responded?

I bet if he's said, "OMG THURS A BOY N IMMA SUK HIS CAWK!?11?!" You'd have been all over it.

OP: Keep us posted lol.

Lol ^ if you're the only one to say anything thats fine. Im just trying to find out how I should handle the whirlwind that is this dude. Thanks for reading though.