Dai Stihó wrote:
I'm not sure I understand why proposing is so silly. Why, my online boyfriend and I propose to each other five times a week.
You both propose to several people several times a week.
Also, I'd like to point out that Tom has a Intellectual Collective now. This eliminates his proposal rate.
It's a Socialist Collective, dammit!
We're willing to accept that sometimes people don't have to be massively intelligent to enter, so long as they have other genetically desirable traits
However, on topic, I'd agree with the analysis that if there's two people you like equally, one nearby and one miles away, two things are clear.
Firstly, you're not ready for a really serious commitment like marriage if you're not sure he's who you want to spend forever with.
Secondly, go with the guy who's closer. You've a lot to experience yet, and with that sort of timeframe with your miles-away guy, there's always the chance you'll not be able to pull through anyway. Explain that to him, and with any luck he'll understand.