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The Count
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 Posted: 16th February, 2012, 12:44 am |
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Joined: 2nd January, 2012, 12:10 am Posts: 361 Location: Auckland, NZ
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Ok, so theirs this guy in my class who I have a crush on, but I know he's straight(i think) However, thats not the problem. i was talking to him today about Christianity(we're both atheists) and when we got to the subject of being liberal, he asked if i had anything against gays(i haven come out yet). i said i had nothing against gays, and he said thats good, and we carried on chatting. now, i have been wanting to come out for a while, however, could not buck u the courage. now, i think he's trust worthy, and he has good morals, however, we're not friends or anything(but we could be if i tried). anyway, do you think i should come out to him, or not) 
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Colin
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 Posted: 16th February, 2012, 12:59 am |
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Lol, you should have pushed the topic more or do such in the future when you're discussing politics again. You should have said something like "No I don't, what's your opinion on the matter?". But why do you bring up this specific question he asked you? Was it unique as opposed to just part of a broad assessment of your social stances? Did he put a weird emphasis on it or act awkward after saying "that's good"? It's probably nothing but if you act flamboyantly or seem gay, he could be trying to see if you're gay based on your response. And in terms of coming out I would just be casual about it if something comes up in discussion I wouldn't be concerned about mentioning it, but I definitely wouldn't make it an objective to have him know because that will just make things awkward. So just bring it up if the opportunity arises.
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The Count
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 Posted: 16th February, 2012, 1:04 am |
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Joined: 2nd January, 2012, 12:10 am Posts: 361 Location: Auckland, NZ
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nah, it just came up, and after i said i didn't mind gays, he said thats good in a normal matter, then he moved on in the conversation
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Shazen
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 Posted: 16th February, 2012, 1:05 am |
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The fact he asked you is suspicious, at least. I would maybe bring up the topic again, if the opportunity arises, like Colin said. ^ but I would also like to add you should maybe try being his friend moreso. You never know what could come out of a simple friendship. Good luck!
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The Count
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 Posted: 16th February, 2012, 1:18 am |
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Shazen wrote: The fact he asked you is suspicious, at least. I would maybe bring up the topic again, if the opportunity arises, like Colin said. ^ but I would also like to add you should maybe try being his friend moreso. You never know what could come out of a simple friendship. Good luck! i say again, i don;t thing their was anything superstitious, as we were talking about it because we got onto being liberal, and before had we talked about smoking
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kissgodz
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 Posted: 16th February, 2012, 1:26 am |
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Tread carefully with this. It may have just been a general question to you regarding the pollitical side of gay people in general. Just coz he doesnt have a problem with gays, doesnt mean he isnt 100% straight. I would certainly go down the avenue firstly of befriending him better, and then just talk so more. Unless u are 150% sure you can trust him, then dont say a word about u being gay if u dont want people to know. That could ruin ur impending friendship, and make ur life hell at school...a lose lose situation.
One step at a time.
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Xendraz
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 Posted: 16th February, 2012, 3:25 am |
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kissgodz wrote: Tread carefully with this. It may have just been a general question to you regarding the pollitical side of gay people in general. Just coz he doesnt have a problem with gays, doesnt mean he isnt 100% straight. I would certainly go down the avenue firstly of befriending him better, and then just talk so more. Unless u are 150% sure you can trust him, then dont say a word about u being gay if u dont want people to know. That could ruin ur impending friendship, and make ur life hell at school...a lose lose situation.
One step at a time. 
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The Count
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 Posted: 16th February, 2012, 3:53 am |
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gofigure:) wrote: kissgodz wrote: Tread carefully with this. It may have just been a general question to you regarding the pollitical side of gay people in general. Just coz he doesnt have a problem with gays, doesnt mean he isnt 100% straight. I would certainly go down the avenue firstly of befriending him better, and then just talk so more. Unless u are 150% sure you can trust him, then dont say a word about u being gay if u dont want people to know. That could ruin ur impending friendship, and make ur life hell at school...a lose lose situation.
One step at a time.  Could. One explain how this^^ is weird 
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The Hierophant
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 Posted: 16th February, 2012, 4:04 am |
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The Count
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 Posted: 16th February, 2012, 4:32 am |
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The Hierophant wrote: The Count wrote: gofigure:) wrote: kissgodz wrote: Tread carefully with this. It may have just been a general question to you regarding the pollitical side of gay people in general. Just coz he doesnt have a problem with gays, doesnt mean he isnt 100% straight. I would certainly go down the avenue firstly of befriending him better, and then just talk so more. Unless u are 150% sure you can trust him, then dont say a word about u being gay if u dont want people to know. That could ruin ur impending friendship, and make ur life hell at school...a lose lose situation.
One step at a time.  Could. One explain how this^^ is weird  It's not weird. Werd ≠ weird. Explain
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Stormwatcher
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 Posted: 16th February, 2012, 11:10 am |
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The Count wrote: The Hierophant wrote: The Count wrote: gofigure:) wrote: kissgodz wrote: Tread carefully with this. It may have just been a general question to you regarding the pollitical side of gay people in general. Just coz he doesnt have a problem with gays, doesnt mean he isnt 100% straight. I would certainly go down the avenue firstly of befriending him better, and then just talk so more. Unless u are 150% sure you can trust him, then dont say a word about u being gay if u dont want people to know. That could ruin ur impending friendship, and make ur life hell at school...a lose lose situation.
One step at a time.  Could. One explain how this^^ is weird  It's not weird. Werd ≠ weird. Explain Similar to how 2 is not equal to 3, werd is not equal to weird. Werd simply means they agree with the post.
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The Count
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 Posted: 16th February, 2012, 10:21 pm |
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Joined: 2nd January, 2012, 12:10 am Posts: 361 Location: Auckland, NZ
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Stormwatcher wrote: The Count wrote: The Hierophant wrote: The Count wrote: gofigure:) wrote: kissgodz wrote: Tread carefully with this. It may have just been a general question to you regarding the pollitical side of gay people in general. Just coz he doesnt have a problem with gays, doesnt mean he isnt 100% straight. I would certainly go down the avenue firstly of befriending him better, and then just talk so more. Unless u are 150% sure you can trust him, then dont say a word about u being gay if u dont want people to know. That could ruin ur impending friendship, and make ur life hell at school...a lose lose situation.
One step at a time.  Could. One explain how this^^ is weird  It's not weird. Werd ≠ weird. Explain Similar to how 2 is not equal to 3, werd is not equal to weird. Werd simply means they agree with the post. Thanks 
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TrueVictory
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 Posted: 17th February, 2012, 9:00 pm |
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 The conversation above^ But yeah i agree that you should get to know him better before telling him.
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Nigel
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 Posted: 17th February, 2012, 9:16 pm |
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The Count wrote: Stormwatcher wrote: The Count wrote: The Hierophant wrote: The Count wrote: gofigure:) wrote: kissgodz wrote: Tread carefully with this. It may have just been a general question to you regarding the pollitical side of gay people in general. Just coz he doesnt have a problem with gays, doesnt mean he isnt 100% straight. I would certainly go down the avenue firstly of befriending him better, and then just talk so more. Unless u are 150% sure you can trust him, then dont say a word about u being gay if u dont want people to know. That could ruin ur impending friendship, and make ur life hell at school...a lose lose situation.
One step at a time.  Could. One explain how this^^ is weird  It's not weird. Werd ≠ weird. Explain Similar to how 2 is not equal to 3, werd is not equal to weird. Werd simply means they agree with the post. Thanks  Werd is a comical misspelling of "word". It is a sort-of common response in America which means "I agree".
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