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New Members' Forum Feedback

Unread postby Stark » 13th December, 2015, 9:17 pm

Us all having been new members once (yes, even me, with my blue username), we all know what it can be like being a member with posts in only single or double figures. Seeing all the 6000-posters posting in seemingly every thread, knowing everyone's first name and having a million GTFA badges in their signature can be intimidating. You might feel like you're not heard and it can be difficult making friends when everyone already knows each other. As part of a recent drive to make new members feel more welcome, we would like to hear more from you.

You've just joined. Maybe you spent a few weeks looking around this place and deciding whether or not it was worth your time; maybe you clicked "Register" after being on the site for two seconds. Now that you're here, you might've made an introduction thread or posted in self pics. Hopefully you've had a warm welcome from our members here, and you're enjoying using the forum and all the great things it offers. If there's been anything you've noticed that you think could be improved though, we'd like to know. We have three key questions for you to consider:

What made you want to join in the first place?

Was there anything that made you not want to join?

What changes could we make to the site to make you feel more welcome as a new member?

If you would prefer to respond to these questions over a private message to myself, or any other moderator or admin, feel free to do so by clicking the PM link below. To find links to the other moderators' profiles, check this thread.

Also, if you're new, this thread is very worth having a read through.

To established members
: please don't post in this thread. While your opinions have been very valuable in the other thread, we were concerned that new members were not making their voices heard as much as they could be, while their input is just as insightful and useful. Thanks! :keke:
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Re: New Members' Forum Feedback

Unread postby daylen1 » 4th February, 2016, 11:52 am

I was looking for a decent forum to talk to other gay teens. I am from a small (only about 800 people) southern town and trust me, not many gay teens around here. Not only am I gay but deaf as well. (not looking for sympathy, just friends)
Everyone has been super friendly and have truly made me feel welcome. I thank you all, or y'all as we say it in the southern US!
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Re: New Members' Forum Feedback

Unread postby Russell » 4th February, 2016, 12:24 pm

As a new member, I feel that this place is wonderful. A private Eden if you will. Keep up the good work!

With regards to changes, I believe that majority have been addressed and the ones that have been implemented thus far seem to be yielding positive results.

Must say though, that Jacketh guy really creeped me out. Kept asking for pictures of my feet. He should totes be banned.
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Re: New Members' Forum Feedback

Unread postby Circles » 4th February, 2016, 12:36 pm

Russell wrote:Must say though, that Jacketh guy really creeped me out. Kept asking for pictures of my feet. He should totes be banned.

Russel you're gonna scare the new folks :pfft:
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Re: New Members' Forum Feedback

Unread postby leona » 17th March, 2016, 6:00 am

Thank you for the welcome, but you made a mistake, I have the schools record for detentions all for talking in class, now you just gave me permission to talk as much as I want, that is one big mistake, I even talk in my sleep, well mum says I do any way.

The reason I started to look around the net was trolls, sex mad mere males, lies tricks and imposters. I found a few nice places, shoe and girlsweb being the best, but this place is some thing different, it small polite nice and friendly, that is a first on the web for me, well I don’t go to stamp collecting sites much do I.

Thank you for this place, and almost every one in it, sorry that was a joke, a very bad one, you will either get used to my humour, or have a brain storm and make a shrink very rich.

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Re: New Members' Forum Feedback

Unread postby Dessy » 17th March, 2016, 12:13 pm

leona wrote:Thank you for the welcome, but you made a mistake, I have the schools record for detentions all for talking in class, now you just gave me permission to talk as much as I want, that is one big mistake, I even talk in my sleep, well mum says I do any way.

The reason I started to look around the net was trolls, sex mad mere males, lies tricks and imposters. I found a few nice places, shoe and girlsweb being the best, but this place is some thing different, it small polite nice and friendly, that is a first on the web for me, well I don’t go to stamp collecting sites much do I.

Thank you for this place, and almost every one in it, sorry that was a joke, a very bad one, you will either get used to my humour, or have a brain storm and make a shrink very rich.

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Re: New Members' Forum Feedback

Unread postby Zeus » 17th March, 2016, 12:41 pm

daylen1 wrote:I was looking for a decent forum to talk to other gay teens. I am from a small (only about 800 people) southern town and trust me, not many gay teens around here. Not only am I gay but deaf as well. (not looking for sympathy, just friends)
Everyone has been super friendly and have truly made me feel welcome. I thank you all, or y'all as we say it in the southern US!


You're deaf? Wow. I gotta learn some sign language... After Nyle DiMarco won America's Next Top Model, I've been very interested :P And now you.. So many hotties I gotta talk to.
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Re: New Members' Forum Feedback

Unread postby Matt77 » 17th March, 2016, 2:21 pm

I joined because I came out about being gay about a month ago (feels amazing btw) and was looking for more people around my age to talk about it since the area I'm in isn't rich in gays and my school doesn't have any gay meeting social groups(GSA, LBGT clubs, ect.) I had second thought on whether the internet was the best place for looking for more people like me since it can be so shady but this forum looks like a pretty decent place and reading on it has DEFINITELY made me feel a lot better about my current situation and I hope to befriend some fellow gays:)
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Re: New Members' Forum Feedback

Unread postby Liam » 17th March, 2016, 2:42 pm

What made you want to join in the first place?

I was confused about my sexuality and didn't know the first thing about being gay or like where I could even just talk with people in a similar situation or just in general. The forum seemed fun, kind, and a good place to start.

Was there anything that made you not want to join?

I think just the intimidation that was mentioned in the first post in this thread with seeing people with thousands of posts, but these "veterans" so to speak have been very sweet so I'm not really intimidated anymore. It was also the whole being in the closet thing, but this site seems to understand that and I've been able to feel safe here.

What changes could we make to the site to make you feel more welcome as a new member?

I feel pretty welcome, everyone seems kind I would just suggest to new members to try to be as active as possible and use the chat feature as well. I think this tread was an awesome idea and would like to thank all of you for doing a great job :)
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Re: New Members' Forum Feedback

Unread postby Sturgeon » 17th March, 2016, 3:01 pm

As I've mentioned once before, I had been a member on here before on a separate account, which I no longer have the details for. Probably the thing that pushed me back here was the fact that for the past few months I've become increasingly pre-occupied with worries about my health, which has left me probably more housebound than it should, but It causes me to want stay close to home. Hence, I spend a lot more time on my PC.

I go into the video chat from time-to-time and everyone there has been very nice. Unfortunately, I don't give that back most of the time I'm in the chat because I'm usually doing other things, and only contribute to the conversation every once in a while.
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Re: New Members' Forum Feedback

Unread postby Danchii » 5th June, 2016, 5:52 pm

Okay, so I've been here a decent amount of time, so I reckon that I shall finally complete this.

What made you want to join in the first place?
In the midst of not knowing any other queer people, I wanted to find others that were like me. It took a while to keep motivation after every forum that I've found just essentially being a sexting and/or hookup site, other than this.

Was there anything that made you not want to join?
To be honest, and I know many love it, the theme of the site did put me off. If I recall correctly, it was something like 'Oh god, just another old crummy site.' However I have grown to love it, so I may even opt to keep this theme after it's updated to the newer theme. (which also cancels out this issue)

What changes could we make to the site to make you feel more welcome as a new member?
The only thing I can think of which differs to any other place I've been on, is usually that upon joining, there's a PM waiting in your inbox immediately. Some like this, some don't. But since you asked, and I'm a fan of it, I think this is a nice addition. Usually they give a basic introduction to the features of the forum, and tips/tricks and links to various helpful forum threads, like the rules, etc.

After attempting to think of other ideas, I found myself pausing when thinking of the signature badges. I recall on one old forum I was a part of, they had an introductory activity, which if completed earned the user a badge for their signature. It contained various activities (all somewhat easy to complete) but it was a way of getting new members used to the forum quickly. Then the user would post a link as proof in their post. Examples of what could be used for this forum, could be things such as:
-> Make an introduction thread.
-> Give a user some advice.
-> Participate in a forum game.
-> Edit your profile, add an avatar and write something in your signature.
->Start your own blog.

Essentially they're different activities which would help the new member get used to the forum, how it works and all the different aspects of it.
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Re: New Members' Forum Feedback

Unread postby nickcalnyx » 23rd August, 2016, 12:36 pm

Hi.. I'm new here, and really tho, I've never been in a forum before, so I don't really know how to do this. I can't say where I come from, but I'm Asian, so.. sorry if my English is bad, like real bad.

So.. I think I'm gonna start with answering the guidelines.

What made you want to join in the first place?
I've never met anyone gay before, and I'm really insecure about myself. I told some friends of mine that I'm gay, but none of them really understands me; some of them asked me "Have you tried liking girls?", like they want to change me or something. I just want to be accepted, but where I come from, people don't really accept homosexuality. I can't come out to my parents since I know they despise gays and maybe it's because my family is Catholic.
SO.. I've been dilly-dallying about my life, but I haven't really answered the question. Lately, I've been feeling suicidal. I've been searching online on how to kill myself easily and painlessly, but I'm scared to die, even tho I feel like having no purpose to live. I googled "gay community for teenager" and I found this site. So I thought "Why not?". I just need support and some motivation, because I really need some guidance especially from people who had the same experience as I am having right now. And maybe.. I might just run into someone special.. haha..

Was there anything that made you not want to join?
Yes, probably just anxiety, but I really want to explore the vast world of people who are the same as me. Wow.. that line was cheesy... Sorry for that.

What changes could we make to the site to make you feel more welcome as a new member?
I don't really have anything to say about the site. I'm new to this kind of thing, you know.. talking with people online.

So... yep that's about it. Pleased to meet you all, I hope we can be friends :)
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Re: New Members' Forum Feedback

Unread postby Bridgey98 » 23rd August, 2016, 1:47 pm

I've been on here since April but I'm pretty quiet and keep to myself, too nervous and anxcious to join in much.


What made you want to join in the first place?

A place to feel welcomed by similar people with similar situations and to try and make friends.

Was there anything that made you not want to join?

Probably awkwardness of joining a site full of people who already know each other and coming in and feeling like I'm imposing.

What changes could we make to the site to make you feel more welcome as a new member?

Not really sure, sorry I'm not very helpful.
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Re: New Members' Forum Feedback

Unread postby chris1ofcl » 27th August, 2016, 4:55 am

What made me want to join in the first place?

I found this place wonderful out of all the other forum's present out there (Much of Research Done, Hehe). I went through some posts and found the teens here to be really good here and I will have fun here. :nod:

Was there anything that made you not want to join?

To be honest, the site had quiet outdated look, but hope you guys make it look better to attract even more teens out there!
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Re: New Members' Forum Feedback

Unread postby Jedikiah » 21st December, 2016, 7:31 am

What made you want to join in the first place?

Well I was a member of Chat Avenue. Of course that place is full of old creeps so I'd figure that there are more people here who are just teens.

Was there anything that made you not want to join?

Im a little shy tbh. I was judged and bullied a lot so I have trust issues. I knew that making friends with new people on here will be awkward and ya, I just have low self esteem.

What changes could we make to the site to make you feel more welcome as a new member?

Not really sure. I mean, you can add A LOT more new emojis into the chat room but not really much I can say about improvements.
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Re: New Members' Forum Feedback

Unread postby idktho » 21st December, 2016, 8:12 am

What made you join in the first place?

Firstly, I love meeting new people, especially gay since there are not much gay I know. Second, I wanted to make friends. Third, I wanted to know what kind of culture in another country.

Was there anything that made you not want to join?

Other than my insensitive and too-all-out personality, all fine. Actually I'm pretty noisy and annoying af and often can't identify if I had been rude or such.

What changes would we make to the site to make you feel more welcome as a new member?

Nothing? For the site itself is fine already for me.

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Re: New Members' Forum Feedback

Unread postby Patrixen » 20th February, 2017, 3:34 pm

Well, I wanted to join because I thought it may be a good place to find friends, since people here seem so nice (even with a little sass ;) ) I don't really have lots of friends overall and I think here it might be easier to find some.

The only thing that made me think of not registering here is my own shyness. Maybe not so much a shyness as an anxiety, sometimes I just struggle to even write anything to anybody, but I think I can try to improve it here :D
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Re: New Members' Forum Feedback

Unread postby JSmith » 1st March, 2017, 9:51 am

What made me want to join: to be honest I have no specific idea what actually made me want to join but I wanted to talk to other people who could feel the same.

Made me not want to join was probably my nervousness
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