I want to come out as bi to my best friend who I've also been crushing on. We've known each other for close to 10 years and we are really close, almost inseperable. I suspect he may be also in the closet or in denial. He gives mixed signals and doesn't date women so I'm not really sure.

I'm not going to tell him that I like him yet unless he asks. I just want to let him know that I'm bi for now.

I feel like I should tell him in person rather than through text message but every time I'm with him I get nervous and freeze up or think that it's not a good time to bring it up.

Is there good time to tell him? Should I wait until I can say it in person? How did you go about it?

I came out to my mother during a fight. I cried, We were in the car. (Pretty much most of the things people advise you not to do when coming out.)

My mother accepts me. She's the only one who knows.


If you're nervous about coming out to him don't do it. Wait until you're not nervous about it. Don't rush coming out. I feel as if you rush, you kind of complicate things.

I also came out to my mother first. And then she told my dad, and some others (it was okay for me). Anyway my friends and brothers still doesnt know.

I came out to my mother first, in person. The next day I came out to my father, over the phone (he was overseas). And then, about an hour afterwards, I came out to everyone else through a Facebook status.

The first person I told was a psychiatrist (I've had something of a turbulent mental history, so it's a pathway I've become comfortable using). Pretty soon, however, I told the person whom, for the sake of elegance, I shall call the person whom it most concerned, and with whom I was - am? - most concerned. I find it easier to speak in pretty obscure language, because I find some of the language associated with this whole topic a little distasteful... I would tell him, simply because, if you're anything like me, the situation is unbearably painful, and the only other solution would be too damaging to those around you. I wouldn't, however, get my hopes up on the whole 'could he be gay?' question, because the answer is, in all likelihood, no. But you know him better than me (probably...)

PM if you want...

M.

Yea I don't plan on telling my mom for a while. We have a fairly distant relationship due to some past events..

I don't want to rush it but I also don't want to wait too long. It's been bothering me a lot lately, especially since we see each other every day and our friendship is so close. I think I have to tell him by the summer time at least

In the car!!! Were you insane!?


Back to the topic, I don't see why a bisexual would have to come out.
Unless he/she planned to start a life next to someone of the same gender. In your case I would come out to him, if you believe that you two might have something in the future.

A note on my door, it is still there, it reads
"Watch out, the contents of this room are gay, and are suceptible to corrupting young minds, and ruining America."

Some fresh Nigierian was about to pop off about how we should be burnt alive in Ethics class, so I turned around and told him. He was about to pop off at me, but my mate who's Welsh too and a proper big rugby lad, just said, "Good for you, you know what I support you."

And the Fresh Prince fell silent...

I came out in the car too, we didn't have a crash. I came out by letter and over the phone too.

Only do it when you're ready. You did say you get "mixed signals" from him, so surely he won't take it badly?!

During a nervous build up one evening, I looked my dad in the eyes and said I was a fag.

Didn't plan to but it just came out that way. Lolwhoops.

Live your life of your own terms, if you want to tell him that you are bi, then tell him it polity and with love.

We were on holiday. The country we were in was quite homophobic, it was common to hear about two gy guys gettin spat on in clubs etc. So, this hot PR from Dublin was into me, so I had to choose - bring him back to the apartment or stay comfortable in the closet. His accent was too fucking fantastic, I chose the former and unknown to me, there was a party in our apartment while I was out and
most of the friends I went on holiday with were there.. basically came out to 31 people all at once.. x)

Oh my god please tell me you actually did this :L!

Had a conversation with my dad. He thought I was unusually close with my 'friend' (boyfriend at the time) Ashley when I was 14. Conversation went a bit like this;
Dad: Ray?
Me: Yeah, Dad?
Dad: You and Ashley... are you just mates?
Me: Yeah. What else would we be?
Dad: I'll just come right out and say it... is Ashley your boyfriend?
Me:
Dad: Are you gay, Rayne?
Me:
Dad:
Me: Yeah.
Dad: Okay, I was just wondering. But from now on you leave the door open when Ashley's in your room okay?

He was the only person who knew for a long time. Came out to everyone else about six months ago.

I came out to my bestfriend first, when we were walking down a long lane out of a whim My family nah.

I know this is a bit soon, like - we don't even know each other that well and stuff but..... can we swap dads :|?

If you really want too.

I hope you can cook though else you will get food poisoning xD

I was thinking the same